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Relationships

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Having self-esteem
Asking for support How do I have self-esteem when my ex-boyfriend already had new girlfriend in his life before he broke up with me?
Givng support

Focus on the people who love you. Your self-worth doesn't depend on one guy. Do you have girlfriends who love you? Family members who love you? Have you had a friend or two over a long period of time? Co-workers who enjoy working with you? Asking yourself these questions serves to remind yourself that you are a person of value.

Also, picture a center core of innate goodness that is born inside you, and which can never be depleted, no matter what anyone does or says to you.

There are several activities in my Confidence Workout package that might help you get through this tough time.

A couple of books that helped me in similar situations:

  • Love is Letting Go of Fear - (I'll have to look up the author)
  • Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends - Bruce Fisher
   
Quit calling him
Asking for support My boyfriend just abruptly and painfully told me he doesn't want to see me any more. My friends say to quit calling him and move on, but I can't seem to stop.
Givng support

I recommend a book called Don't Call that Man. I don't remember the author, but it really helped me in a similar situation.

RESULTS

That book did help a little, although, I'm still sad

Givng support Would it help if we check back in a a few weeks?

Asking for support

Yes, please!

Results (A few weeks later) We stopped seeing each other for a while. I started to be aware of some things that I really didn't like about him. Now we are casual friends. I wouldn't want to start dating him again, even if he asked me.
Movies and romance
Asking for support

I love to go to the movies. But I can't help but get a little bummed out when there's so much kissing between happy lovers on the screen - and none of that in my own life right now!

Givng support Bear in mind that these scenes when the couple is falling in love show you only that juicy infatuation stage. Then they typically part for a while, and reunite for the happy ending. OK, now imagine this lovey dovey couple years later. Now they have gotten into a domestic routine and are arguing about money, household chores, and parenting issues. Divorce may even rearing its ugly head. These movies are delightful because they are showing us a snapshot of that most delightful - and brief - stage of infatuation. So enjoy it for what it is, but realistic about what it isn't.
 

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