A regular advice column published monthly in Singles Network, a publication for singles of all ages in the metro Denver, Colorado area.

Dear Linda,

I met a beautiful woman! (I think she's younger , a couple of years) I met her at a place where I go country line dancing. Danced a couple of times . Her cousin said call her sometime! I hope it works out between you two! exchanged phone numbers.

There was some flirting involved from both of us, touching, tapping each other, she touched my shoulder, we smiled at one another, laughed together, lots of eye contact during the night. I waited 4 days after I met her to call her. We talked a little bit, she said she had to go, call lasted about 15 min., I will call you back after I get off work! I sent her an email (I can't remember) before or after I called her that day complimenting how attractive, beautiful she was, she made my night Friday night etc.

A day has passed since the phone call, no response from her yet! I'm confident and secure w/ myself as a person. I'm not desperate for her, but I'm not trying be a pest by calling her a lot. I really like her and I'm interested in her. Didn't say a lot conversation wise because I want there to be mystery between us!

1. What's going on? Did I do something wrong? I was a gentleman to her!
2. Should I wait for her to call me back, how long?
3. Does it sound like she's interested? maybe she's shy?
4. Should I be a little more patient and let her make the next move?

Please help me make the right decisions!

Jesse

Dear Jesse,

I suggest that you call her again, ask her if she would like to go dancing or whatever. By her response you will know what step to take next (no pun intended!!). If she isn't available to you, don't take it personally.

Dear Linda,

I am a 21 year old student who has a crush on my teacher. Now, my teacher is a young man, sometimes I get the feeling that he may be interested in me and then other times I am not so sure. However, am I just wasting my time because of the fact that he is my teacher? In a make believe scenerio, let's pretend something happened between us romantically, I kind of get the feeling that it may be a disaster right from the get-go (because of the mere fact that he is my teacher). On the other hand, I feel like I am mature enough to be able to handle myself in an appropriate manner. I tried to ignore the fact that I like him, but he is just such an interesting person and has a great sense of humor.

I understand that I am probably just wasting my energy thinking about this situation; I am not a very flirtatious woman at all and probably would never make a first move on him but I would really appreciate any input you may have. Thank you.

Kimberly

Dear Kimberly,

You have a crush on a teacher, and that is more common than think. There is nothing wrong with fantasizing as long as you keep it in perspective, realizing that it is fantasy. It would not be to your advantage to make a move toward him, in fact I can't say it would be to his advantage to make a move either.

Dear Linda,

Hi there! First of all, cool website!

I have some questions about flirting.
How can you tell if a guy is flirting with you?
What's a sign that he is flirting with you? (Say the guy grabs the girls' hand, while talking to her (making a conversation), and then holds the girls' hand.)
Is flirting a sign that the guy is interested in the girl?

Thanks for your time. Have a nice day!

Bonnie

Dear Bonnie,

Thanks for the compliment. First, body language is an indicator if someone is interested in the other person. Second, my definition of flirting - letting someone know you like them and would like to know them better, is different from Webster's, which is "to play at love". Some people are sincere, others play. Unfortunately, we have to figure it out.

Dear Linda,

Hi. I have man trouble. I have this guy friend. Me and him are really close in almost every way. We confide in each other everyday and we are each others best friends. He recently broke up with his girlfriend and he is now looking for another girl that is just like me. How can I make him see that he is describing me perfectly and I might be the one for him?

Annette

Dear Annette,

There are a few things you can do here, a couple of suggestions would be:
Ask him if he's looking for someone like you, why not you? Or, let him figure it out without saying anything. Whatever happens now, I hope that you can remain friends, and if nothing develops now, maybe it will in the future.