I would like to know if there is any hope for a throw away wife of 29 years marriage for I would not begin to know how to flirt with any one.

Thank You,
Sarah, Just another throwaway

Until you change the mind set that you are a "throw away wife" there is little hope that you will have the confidence to flirt with anyone. If YOU don't think you have something to offer someone, why would they find you interesting? In other words, it starts with you.

If you are willing to work on building your self confidence, my book, How To Flirt, could help you quite a bit, you might even have fun at the same time. Good luck!

There is this girl in my school, she the prettiest and nicest girl i know, but there is only one problem, she likes being single. But i cant stop thinking about her. PLEASE help me.

Bryan

I wish I could help you, but since she has clearly told you she is NOT looking for a relationship, forcing one would only bring you pain, more than you're in right now. I suggest you put closure to this situation, and look for someone who is available to give you the love and attention you deserve, which I don't think you would get from this girl. Not because she isn't capable, but because she doesn't want to get involved.

There is a a girl that is interested in me. I was listening to too much smoke from other people saying that," she was taking this guy back to her place vice versa. She told me that she has never called him and she was caught in a lie because she has his number. She told me that she didn't have it.

She works at the gym I use to. One of her co-worker's came to me and told me that she had the hots for my lifting partner and wanted him bad. I emailed her and told her that I was CONCEADING and that " I didn't like being lied to and played to get to someone else. She got the email on Saturday morning and she emailed me back on Sunday night at 9:45 at night. Swearing at me up a storm and the last thing she said was, DON'T WORRY ABOUT ME EMAILING YOU,TALKING TO YOU OR EVEN LOOKING AT YOU. YOU BLEW IT. YOU ARE NOT A FRIEND, AQUAINTENCE, NOTHING. So, I went to the gym and left her a note. Apologizing and explaining my side. I didn't see her for about 2 days. In the end we shook hands and she says she accepted my apology but she does not even come up to me anymore. She did however stare at me for about 8 seconds. I can see that she lied about accepting the apology.

What do I do? How, much time does she need to talk with me, Why was all the last paragraph n Capital Case? Me stating CONCEADING I thought meant throughing in the towel for her to do what she wanted with the other guy. I did not say anything about sex. All I said was, How could you and how could I have been so naieve? She has looked at me and talked with me and returned my email. Do you think that I caught her and that is why she is so mad and when she said that I blew it that was the last straw? Do you think I had a chance. How do I win her back? Please help.

Robby

It is time for you to back off. She has asked for space and if you don't give it to her you won't have a chance. A word of caution, your choice of words i.e., "she was caught in a lie" , and that " she lied about the apology " shows a judgmental personality. People lie when they are afraid. If she's afraid to tell you the truth, you can never have a relationship, not even a friendship. I think that's why she wrote in caps.

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I know this is for singles, however, cannot find anything in relation to this issue, so thought I would email and see if you can offer anything.

I am in a defacto relationship of 7 years, 2 children (4 and 2) and a mortgage. It is good. However, I love to flirt and I know I would let this lead to a kiss. I do not want this to happen. It has only ever happened once during this relationship. I want to resolve this in myself without just putting a cork in it. I want to find out why I get such a kick out of engaging with men and flirting and once I know I have them hooked or to a kiss, I am kind of satiated, fulfilled. FOr me it is fun, enjoyable and also includes of a lot of quick, witty repartee.

My partner thinks I have some other issues in relation to sex/love/intimacy and thinks this could be linked in. I had a strict catholic upbringing and have never been promiscuous but kind of wish I had been more adventurous when I was single.

How can I move forward in a positive sense with this issue. My partner and I are considering getting married in the next 2 years. He does not want to live with "will she won't she". I do not want him to either, I sure would not want to.

Any tips or do you know of any books that deal with this issue in marriage.

Carole, and thank you

I think it is wise for you to want to resolve these needs within yourself without just putting a cork on it. You are seeking validation that you are desirable, if you believed you were, you wouldn't be hungry for the attention. From what you have said, it doesn't sound like you are ready for a monogamous relationship, in fact you will not be ready until you have a positive self esteem and no longer need the external approval of men to make you feel worthwhile. You get a "kick" out of getting men interested and then lose interest because this behavior gives you control. Your need for control stems from feelings of powerlessness, and this is your way of getting back. You will be ready for marriage when you have accepted yourself as a valuable, worthwhile, person.