I'm a high schooler in a small town in Texas. Not one of those football jocks or a man with a nice car. I am not a geek either, despite my love of computers. I am by no means the strongest or most attractive man in the school, but I do consider myself handsome and sophisticated. My problem is that I have many friends that are girls, but I have not once had a girlfriend.

One girl has stolen my heart away. I flirt and such, but she is one who cannot pick up on signs very easily. Shes an eccentric and loud character, who is a walking actor. What can I, a simple boy, do to show her that I love her, but yet not lose my friendship with her if she says no? I realize that this is most likely an adult-ish site, since most people say that love is for mature people and infatuation is for High Schoolers. But truthfully, most of my friends are adults! I suppose that my problem is that I am afraid to express how I feel, because I am not all together very popular. Well, I do have lots of friends, but I get the feeling they hang around me because they pity me. What can I do? How can I express my feelings without being laughed out of the school?

Marco

You are quite articulate, and you sound like a very sensitive caring person. It also sounds to me that you lack self esteem. It is important that you feel worthy and deserving of what you want. I suggest that you start reading, you can get books from the library or local bookstore. You can get mine from my web site.

To answer your question. You could try to hold her hand or put your arm around her, if the situation arises. If she backs away, she's giving you the message that she isn't ready yet.

I recently finished some contract work in a big corporation. There was one guy who seemed interested and paying so much atttention to me. I liked him as well and joked with him a lot. However, I didn't expect anymore. Anyway, he got his boss and others paying attention to me. I didn't do anything because I wasn't sure what to do.

Two days before I was leaving he was so dissappointed. He was coming round to my desk a lot and starting conversation. I just joked with him but did not say anything because I had no idea what to do. I liked him but I am heading overseas and might not come back in a couple of years. He is 33 and I am 26. He knew I was going for a long time. Why would he be interested in me??

Anyway, he didn't say goodbye as he left for a vacation before I finished. What should I do. Should I call him after the vacation. He didn't give any numbers. I did well in that job and got good references. As such, I don't want them to laugh at me and blew my chances for future employment.

Gale

It would be a good idea to call him and see how his vacation was. If you want to stay in touch with him when you leave, ask him if you could write to him.

I have a question to ask you about flirting.

I work in a office that welcomes new people that our hired by our company. This one particular women came in one day and I found her to be attractive physically and I also thought she had a very nice personality. Well after we met she went to work in her office. Well every now and then we would pass each other in the work place. She always says hi when she sees me and ask how I am doing. I say hello back and we talk for like 2 minutes. She always smiles at me and seems very nice to me. I don't know if she is giving me the clue that she is interested in me.

One episode that convices me is that one day she was driving her car to the parking lot but i did not know who was in the car. Well the car beeped its horn and I looked and it was her waving at me. After she had parked the car, I said hello to her and she asked if i was going to lunch. I said yes and then I asked her if she wanted to go to lunch the next day. She said to me that she was thinking the same thing. We have not had lunch yet, but I wanted to know from you, does she have any interest in me. I would greatly appreciate if you can email me back with your comments. Thank you. One thing I would mention is that when ever she sees me she says hi with a big smile and she waves at me!!! I am a little confused. Thanks.

Thomas

It sounds to me that she has given you enough signals to move forward.
What are you waiting for? Have a great lunch!

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