My question has less to do with flirting and more to do with NOT flirting. I have a neighbor who won't leave me alone and I don't know what to do. He keeps asking me out and I keep telling him I'm busy. He just doesn't get the message. It's getting annoying, I'm afraid to leave my apartment thinking I'm going to run into him. Any suggestions?

Lisa

Telling him you're "busy" gives him the message "not right now" so of course he'll keep trying. There are a few things you can do. First, you can tell him you just want to be friends, guys hate this but it is a clear message. Or, you can accept his invitation but insist on paying your own way, this also gives the message that you're "just friends". Men also tell me they would rather hear a plain "no thank you" rather than any excuses.

I am a 32 year old man who has never had a serious relationship. I've been intimate with only two women and I would like to know what I can do to be more attractive to women. I have a good job, I'm average height and not bad looking. I just can't seem to get a date.

Dan

In my book How To Flirt I state that flirting has less to do with how you look and a lot more to do with how you make people feel. If you feel good about yourself and feel you have something to offer other people, they will want to be around you. Developing conversation skills and building your self esteem will increase your confidence. Also, make the effort to get out and meet people. I've never known anyone who met somebody between the television and the refrigerator.

If you meet someone and you introduce yourself to that person however the person doesn't use your name while talking or addressing you how would you take that?

Gerri

Don't take it personally, most people forget a person's name. Be kind and offer 'my name is ________ I wasn't sure if I told you.'

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