My new beau and I just began dating seriously for about 4 months. He's an entrepreneur and consults with a lot of women and if that's not enough...he's very flirtatious. I've notice him checking out other women when he thinks I'm not aware of it. I was contemplating on breaking up with him but, he treats me really good. Although, I get pissed when I see him checking out other women.

Am I over reacting? I understand that we are only human and I expect him to notice other women when I not around but not while I am in plain view. What do you think??

Barbara

You are not over reacting, you are however reacting exactly as this guy wants. First of all, I don't think for a minute that he checks out other women when he thinks you are not aware of it. He knows EXACTLY what he is doing, he's trying to make you insecure and needy, and he's succeeding. Second, you say he treats you really good, I don't think the good can out weigh the bad when you are dealing with someone who plays with your self esteem.

Finally, I would like to see you test him for sincerity. Don't let him get away with his game, the next time he's checking out women, tell him you don't like it and if he doesn't stop you won't be around him. Be sure to not say this until you mean it, if you waiver and let him abuse you after you have made it clear to him that it bothers you, then you will be giving him permission to walk all over you, and he will.

I would like to know how it turns out!.

I have one question. Does a girl that looks back at you while you are walking away have any significant meaning? I also happened to look back at the same time that she did. I kinda like this person too. Can you give me your scoop on this?

Thank you,
Mike

It could be that she too is interested. I would suggest that you make yourself available for conversation with her.

I have very recently separated from my husband, but have been flirting with this one person on my baseball team for over two years. We actually talked about having an affair, but he refused and told me I had to deal with the situation I was in before anything but flirting could occur between us. (I admire him even more).

Well, I did separate from my husband, not because of him, it has been coming for a long time. I asked this guy to meet me for a drink after work one night and we talked about maybe dating. He without a doubt refused, he said that my break-up was still too fresh. He was very nice about it, and very direct about it too. I called him the next day and he did not return my calls for a couple of days. When I eventually did get a hold of him, I asked him if we could still be friends and he said fine, but nothing
more. This is all well and good for me but..... Two days later, I get a message on my cell phone from him asking me to call him - so I did and he wanted me to come over and spend the night with him! Fortunately and unfortunately I had other responsibilities that night.

I did call him the next night and he was busy and is now away on business for a week. He has full access of contacting me, but I do not have the means to contact him. Well you guessed it, he has not bothered. He returns Monday of next week, should I call him and ask him how his trip went, or should I wait for him to call me? It will kill me to wait.

Jean

At first this guy sounded pretty good, centered, and caring. As you described him further, it's clear he's only thinking about the center of his body, and cares only about HIMSELF!

The truth is, waiting will NOT kill you, in fact, if he ever does call you, make it clear to him that being used for sex is not what you are looking for. If he wants to treat you with respect, you would go out with him.

I live on the east coast, so I don't know if you can help me. I am early 40's and I have been told by the men that I have dated as well as my friends that I'm very attractive.

I don't know what is wrong, but men rarely ask me out. I have never been married, but I have had a few boyfriends. I am told by my friends (male and female) that I intimidate men. I am tall, 5'9" and I work out regularly. I support myself and live in a modest home. I can't imagine what would intimidate them...but this must be true, because I hear it quite often. I'm not a snob, although I am never the first to speak with anyone. I'm somewhat reserved, I suppose I'm nervous about being rejected. Anyway, I have no idea how to flirt. I wouldn't even know where to begin. I was raised in an environment where I nver saw it done, and I don't know how to start. Do you have any suggestions for me?

Loretta

Start being the first to speak with EVERYONE. Your world will change for the better.