Back Issue of The Upside of Being Single
July 2001
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The UPSIDE of BEING SINGLE Issue #005, July, 2001 (c)2001 by Selfnurture.com Publisher: Jean Zartner, JeanZartner@Selfnurture.com www.Selfnurture.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ For individuals who want to be more loving to self and others. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ***************This Issue's Theme is CONFIDENCE *****************
IN THIS ISSUE
1. The Confident Single
2. The Confidence Workout
3. Humor and Confidence
4. Send Yourself a Love Note!
5. Confidence-Building Quotes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 1. The Confident Single
I've noticed that the people who have told me they are unhappy with their single status are often singles who have low confidence. They think, "If I just had a romantic partner, I'd feel better about myself." A more useful way to look at this is: "While I'm single, I'll use this time to improve my self-confidence. That way, when I find a mate, I won't burden him or her to take responsibility for my happiness."
Making someone else responsible for your happiness can lead to resentment on their part! Not only that, but if you lose that person, you won't have developed the resources you need to nurture yourself. Also, there will be times when your partner needs to "lean" on you. If you had not built up your personal confidence while you were single -- how will you have the strength to lend your partner?
As a single, you have a fantastic opportunity to increase your confidence. And that confidence is what can attract a partner to you. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 2. The Confidence Workout
Selfnurture.com proudly presents The Confidence Workout, a booklet and presentation by Jean Zartner. We're just finishing production of both audio tapes and CDs. Both the booklet and your choice of tape or CD are yours for only $7. And that includes shipping!
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The 10 Confidence Workout activities are:
1. Borrowing Confidence
2. Bouncing Back
3. Circle of Confidence
4. The Magic of Disappointments
5. Fake It till You Make It Body Language
6. Create Confidence Clusters
7. Positive Self-Talk
8. What "What Ifs" Do You Have?
9. The Healing Spiral
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~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 3. Humor and Confidence
It's hard to feel down about yourself when you're laughing! I hope the following will give you a smile or several.
*** My funny buddy, Ernie, who considers himself to be vertically challenged, told me: "It's better to have loved a short than never to have loved a tall." Another friend ends her eMails this way: "Have a nice day - unless you have other plans."
*** Don't let Steven Wright write your pick-up lines for you. They'll be wrong! For example: "So, do you live around here often?" More Steven Wright weirdisms and other quotes are available at http://albrecht.ecn.purdue.edu/~taylor/humor/sw.html "Babies don't need a vacation, but I still see them at the beach...it pisses me off! I'll go over to a little baby and say, "What are you doing here? You haven't worked a day in your life!" - Steven Wright
*** >From Pun of the Day ( www.punoftheday.com ) "Love can be a touchy subject." "Some guys view marriage as a matter of wife and debt." "Don't kiss birds or you may get an untweetable canarial disease."
*** More humor is available on http://www.Selfnurture.com/humor.htm ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 4. Send Yourself a Love Note!
I use the Comfort Queen website to send myself Comfort Card Love Notes. It hardly takes any time at all, but it gives back big rewards in self-esteem. Go to http://www.comfortqueen.com/notes.html I highly recommend it for sending yourself affirmations, pats on the back, and reminders of your general "loveability." Send notes to reward yourself for reaching a goal or achieving a milestone. Instead of specifying a date to receive it, you can choose the "Surprise me!" option. You'll proceed to forget about your note until the day that this wonderful, surprise bundle of e-Love arrives on your computer. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 5. Confidence-Building Quotes
"Adversity is a way of introducing you to yourself." - Church sign
"To worry about what you don't have is to waste what you do have." - Anonymous
"I'm away from the phone right now, counting my blessings - and I think I'll count you twice." - Recorded greeting on an answering machine
"You have two choices: You can pick yourself and go on; or you can pick yourself up and go on." - Anonymous ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Please mailto:JeanZartner@Selfnurture.com if you find typos, links that don't work, or other problems. Thanks. If for any reason you do NOT want to receive the eZine (knocking me on my downside!), REPLY and put UNSUBSCRIBE in the Subject line. If however, you enjoy the eZine and want to share it - please forward it to single friends - and others - who want to learn to enjoy their lives more. If you are receiving this issue as a forward, and would like your own FREE subscription, please put SUBSCRIBE in the Subject line of an eMail and mailto:JeanZartner@Selfnurture.com Also, (just for our curiosity) please tell us what city you live in or near. Thanks. Seeing double? If you received more than one issue, we apologize. Let us know, and we can correct that for you. Thanks! mailto:JeanZartner@Selfnurture.com PRIVACY STATEMENT: We will not sell or give your contact information to anyone without your permission. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Jean Zartner Selfnurture.com 7077 W. 84th Way, #321 Arvada, CO 80003 USA Phone: 303-940-7423 Fax: 208-330-3810 JeanZartner@Selfnurture.com http://www.Selfnurture.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Thanks so much for staying till THE END of this eZine!
